Woman asks her daughter for payment to babysit her own grandchild

Grandmother asks for payment after her daughter asked her to care for her one-year-old when she returns to work.

One of the benefits of being pregnant for nine months is that you have time to plan. You can plan the perfect nursery, discuss what you will name your child, and you can even begin to plan as far ahead as childcare for when you return to work.

Whether you're going to rely solely on a childcare provider, grandparents, or a combination of the two, it's important to make sure that all parties are on board with the plan and nobody feels as though they're being taken advantage of.

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Cute Baby Boy and His Nanny Looking Out the Window at Home

She says she'd love to help... but wants payment. Source: iStock

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Childcare and grandparents

"My daughter is 29, she has a one-year-old son and will be returning to work soon," a grandmother wrote in a post to Reddit. "She works five days a week, about 7-8 hours a day from 7:30am-3pm, and asked me if I would be willing to babysit her son either two or three days a week."

The doting granny said she would love to spend some quality time with her grandson, and asked her daughter for $12 per hour payment to do so.

"She understood my need for payment but then lowballed me with requesting $10/hour because she claims that she cannot afford it even with her $22/hour job," the woman continued.

"I’m not a daycare, I have my own life, I work for myself and I think she should understand that I’d be giving up my time when I work from home, and if I’m going to be giving up that time then I need money to replace that time I’m giving up from my job."

She said that she does love her grandson, but having him at her place will mean she misses out on income herself, but her daughter argued that it's "only" two or three days a week since her husband's parents will have him the rest of the time, and she is willing to provide food for him to save them on expenses.

"I love my grandson," she repeated, "but as I stated above, I’m not a daycare."

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Woman arrives to see her mother and son and reaches her arms out to hold her young boy.

"I love my grandson." Source: iStock

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Just say no

People instantly called the woman out on her lack of empathy for her daughter's situation, and for editing her post afterwards to reduce the amount she was asking for down from $15 to $10 an hour.

"Dude, just say you don't want to babysit," commented one person. "You're asking for over 2/3 of the money she's making pre-tax. Obviously she can't afford that."

They added that the grandmother is in the wrong, not for asking for payment, but for not just admitting she doesn't want to do it.

Some agreed the woman has every right to be paid for her time, particularly if she's going to be losing money by helping out her daughter, but she has no right to ask for so much. Does she have professional childcare qualifications? A current first aid certificate? A degree in early childhood education?

One person said, "Sure, she'll probably have to pay that at a daycare centre - maybe even more. But a centre comes with qualifications and certifications. Why do you feel like you deserve a pay rate almost equal to professional daycare workers?"

Another added, "In my area these are the qualifications for paid child care workers who earn that much who also manage more than one child at a time."

And perhaps this was the wisest suggestion of all: "You wanna charge your daughter more than half of what she makes to watch your grandson? If you don't wanna do it just say no and let her find someone else."

 

 






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